Journaling is one of the best ways to practice self-care as a couple. A couple’s journal allows you a shared space to reflect on good times and is one of the best conversation starters for you and your partner. Today, I’m sharing some unique couples journal ideas that are easy and effective.
In your shared journal, you can explore your love language, reflect on good times, and explore new things together. Best of all, your journal entries can serve as a simple way to nurture your relationship and is a good way to remember the love that you have for each other when negative thoughts try to sneak into your head.
There are no ground rules when it comes to writing a couples journal. Well, maybe there’s one rule: this can’t be a solo activity. While this might take you out of your comfort zone, it may very well be one of those connection tips that can be a ton of fun. Happy couples are not afraid to share their deepest feelings with each other.
The first time you sit down to write in your couples journal, you may think you’re doing it the wrong way. But, your journal is your safe space to record your favorite moments with your mate. Just think, it’s almost like writing your own love story in a way.
There are several different ways that a couple’s journal can be used and I want to share 13 couples journal ideas with you today! I want to help you use relationship journals to help build a stronger bond in your partnership.
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13 Couples Journal Ideas
When it comes to couples journals, don’t make a bunch of tough rules. You don’t need any fancy relationship journal prompts to get started. Here are some couples journal ideas for getting started without writing prompts.
1. Make a gratitude journal
The only thing better than a gratitude journal is a couples gratitude journal. While it’s nice to reflect on what you’re thankful for individually, it can help you connect on a deeper level when you regularly reflect on what you’re grateful for as a couple. Take time to do partner shares about what matters most in your relationship.
2. Record good news
These days, it seems like good news is few and far between. When something good happens to you as a couple, write it in your journal. Be specific about what happened and how it made you feel. This is a great way keep track of all the little things and big things that happen in our life that we seem to forget about when we’re going through difficult times.
3. Make a year in review
At least once a month, take some time to reflect on the things that have happened in your life as a couple. Did you have an amazing date night? What new adventures did you have this year? Did you celebrate a significant milestone? Whatever it is, jot it down in your journal. At the end of the year, the two of you can refer back to your journal as “year in review” so that you have documentation of the events that occurred throughout the year.
4. Write relationship quotes
Do you have some favorite relationship quotes? Write them in your journal. Your quotes can range from words of wisdom from your favorite celebrity to “mother knows best” advice from your grandmother.
Make it a mission for you and your partner to contribute a quote to the couples journal on a monthly basis.
Can’t think of any relationship quotes? Start with these quotes on BestLIfe.
5. Jot down words of affirmation
Your journal does not have to be difficult. On those days when you can’t think of anything in particular that you want to write about, try jotting down some words of affirmations. You can grow your love together by writing and reflecting on simple affirmations. Here are some examples:
My spouse and I accept each other’s weaknesses.
I love my spouse unconditionally.
I am committed to my spouse.
We appreciate each other’s differences.
My partner and I are growing closer each day.
6. Shout out your favorite couples
List your favorite couples and talk about why they’re your favorite couples. Of course, no relationship is perfect and you certainly don’t want to compare yourself to another couple. However, it is okay to just acknowledge what you like about another couple in your journal and maybe set your own relationship goals based on that couple’s characteristics.
7. Celebrate special occasions
Reflecting on special occasions is a good entry for your journal. Did you have a milestone birthday? Is your anniversary coming up? Did you get a promotion at work? Writing about a special occasion is a great activity for couples. The nice thing about writing about special occasions is that you can look back on these written memories for years to come!
8. Set a specific relationship goal
Do you want to spend more time with each other? Maybe you want be better communicators? Perhaps you have some fitness goals that you want to achieve? Your couples journal is a great place to write down your relationship goals. You can also use this space to write down your plans for reaching your goals.
9. Make a list of gift ideas
Another great idea for your couples journal is to make a list of gift ideas. That way, your partner will have a point of reference when they’re trying to figure out the perfect gift for you for the next holiday or special occasion. Using a section of your journal for a wish list helps take the guesswork out of gift giving and ensures that you get something that you really want.
10. Share date night ideas
When it’s time for date night, do you feel like you do the same things over and over? Use your journal to share some date night ideas. This helps you come up with new and fun ways to spend your time together. If you need some inspiration, hop over to my date night ideas to help you get started with some new date nights.
11. Discuss future plans
What plans do you have as a couple? Maybe there are some travel plans that you’ve been wanting to explore? Have you been wanting to make some upgrades to your home? These are the types of things that you can record in your journal so that you can discuss them as a couples.
With all the things that we have on our agendas, it’s easy to forget something that you’ve been wanting to discuss with your spouse. Use your journal as a way to record these ideas and then spend some time discussing them when you have some free time.
12. List your favorite self-help books
Do you have a favorite self-help book? Are there any books that you’ve been wanting to read? You can list those books in your journal and then refer back to your list when you’re looking for your next book to read. Get some input from your spouse so that you can try to find books that interest you both.
Once you determine the books that you want to read, you can then schedule some time to listen to the books together. If you haven’t tried Audible, it’s a great way to listen to your favorite books.
If listening to books isn’t your thing, spend some time reading to each other. Find a cozy spot to snuggle together and get lost in a good book!
Here are two of my favorite books for couples:
Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages
Michelle Peterson’s #Staymarried: A Couple’s Devotional
13. Make travel plans
Are you an adventurous couple that loves to travel? Use your couples journal to write about places you want to visit in the near future or reflect on past trips. Document the experiences that you’ve had during your trips. Did you say in a fabulous place? Maybe you had an unforgettable meal while you were there? Did you go on an incredible excursion during your stay. These are all things that you can write about in your couples travel journal.
What you’ll need to get started
The best part about doing a couples journal is that you don’t need very much to get started. Just grab one of your favorite journals or a blank notebook and you’ll be well on your way to creating one of the best couples journals. (Disclaimer: Pretty notebooks make journaling more fun. Don’t ask me how. Just trust me.)
A bullet journal will also work well for a couples journal. For other ways you can use bullet journals, check out this post.
Once you’ve decided on what type of journal you’ll use, grab your Boo (and your favorite pens) and get started with your couple’s journal!
Best Journals for Self-Care
Journaling is one of my favorite self-care activities. It’s also a great way help you begin to move towards forgiveness. The key to making journaling a habit is to find a journal that you love. One of the first things I look for in a journal is one that is good quality, like this gratitude journal from Therabox.
I also love this guided self love journal that is filled with prompts and practices to help improve self-esteem and self-confidence.
Journaling as a couple is a great way to spend time together and connect as a couple. In addition to spending quality time together, you also have a tangible item to cherish together forever. I hope these couples journal ideas will help you get started journaling with your spouse.