How to Talk to Yourself Like Someone You Love

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Negative self-talk can directly impact your ability to believe in yourself and can limit you from reaching your full potential. There’s already so much negativity in the world, so there’s no need to multiply that by being your own enemy. There’s power in your words, so as much as you can, use your energy to talk to yourself like someone you love. Your internal dialogue should be empowering and uplifting.

We all have bad days. But, we shouldn’t let our bad days turn into us letting our inner critic have its way. When your best friend or coworker is having a bad day, do you talk negatively to them? Probably not. So don’t do that to yourself. Be your own best friend. Get in the habit of using your words to empower yourself. It’s good for your mental health.

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How do you talk to someone you love?

When you are talking to someone that you have so much love for, what does that sound like?

You tell them how important they are. You use nice, kind, caring words and phrases. You let them know how much you adore them. You motivate them and encourage them. You express how you genuinely feel about them.

Most of the time, you’re straightforward with your thoughts. Rarely do you beat around the bush.

In fact, it’s usually rather difficult to speak abrasively to the people we love, isn’t it? We don’t like to hurt our loved one’s feelings. And if we have to tell them something hurtful, we use softer tones so that it doesn’t hurt so badly.

What would it look like if we used those same tactics when talking to ourselves? What if you learned to speak to yourself with the same care as you speak to those you love?

Is there power in your words?

Words are powerful tools. Think about all of the custom signs that you see with quotes on them. I mean, you can’t go very many places these days without seeing a wood sign with a motivational message on it, right? That’s because people pay close attention to words they see and often when they are having a hard time, they are inspired by a powerful message they may have seen along the way.

Similarly, when we need to be inspired or want to boost our mood, we turn to our friends or family because they often give us the loving talks that we need to help us through the difficult time that we are experiencing in our lives. Words are powerful. And when we don’t have immediate access to someone else to pour into us, we have to learn to rely on loving self-talk to get us through the present moment.

What is the power of your words?

Compassion.com states, “Words have power. They can destroy and create. Sometimes a single word can change everything.” That statement alone suggests the great things that your words can accomplish. It’s important to realize that you have the power to change the trajectory of your day, and possibly even your life, simply by changing your inner dialogue. Alert your compassionate self that she has a job to do. She is responsible for speaking positivity into your life. She is responsible for motivating you, encouraging you, and loving you on a daily basis.

What are some examples of loving self-talk?

It may be difficult to learn to talk to yourself like someone you love. For some reason, it’s easier to be kinder to others than it is to ourselves. But we’re going to work on changing that. Here are some examples of some statements that you can use to talk to yourself like someone you love.

Why alone time is important.

As busy moms, we often get wrapped up in taking care of our family members. Our own actions and thoughts can easily take the back seat to their needs and demands. Many of us prefer it that way, and that’s okay. Honestly, it kinda comes with being a mom, right?

But, getting in some alone time every now and then is really important. So, the next time you have the opportunity to get a moment or two away for yourself, don’t pass it up. You deserve it. You need it. Alone time can be a good thing.

Being alone gives you quiet time to focus on yourself. It gives you the chance to understand who you are. You can listen to your inner thoughts and get a better understanding of where you are mentally and emotionally.

If you are a creative person, alone time gives you the space for more creativity. Forbes contributor Amy Morin states that being alone helps build your mental strength.

Why you should talk to yourself like someone you love

If you want to live a happy life, talking to yourself like someone you love is necessary. Don’t spend your whole life waiting for someone else to encourage and motivate you when you have the power to do it yourself. Don’t get me wrong, if you have people in your life who support and encourage you, accept that! The more, the merrier! But don’t discount the power that you have within yourself.

Talking to yourself lovingly helps you to be a more optimistic person. It helps you to overcome negative thinking and be more confident about reaching your goals. People who know the value of positive self-talk are more confident and lead more successful lives. It’s your job to love yourself. All the extra love you get is a bonus.

Brene Brown said it best, “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.”

Quotes about positive self-talk

“Self-talk reflects your innermost feelings.” ― Dr. Asa Don Brown

“Convince yourself everyday that you are worthy of a good life. Let go of stress, breathe. Stay positive, all is well.” ― Germany Kent

“Your self-talk is the channel of behavior change” ― Gino Norris

“There is no inspiration without being armed with the ability of self-talk.” ― Mwanandeke Kindembo

“Remember that positive self-talk is an intrinsic part of a healthy mind.” ― Asa Don Brown

“Let the voice of the soul come out from within, listen to it, expand yourself.” ― Santosh Kumar (San)

“Self-Talk is the most important conversation of your life.” ― Jesus Apolinaris

“Self-talk should be a conversation of priority with oneself. It can be encouraging when having a positive outlook on life with your thoughts, beliefs, and ideas. Be Optimistic with positive thinking, and it can be an effective way to better your wellbeing with excellent outcomes in life. As a result, you will have greater life satisfaction.” ― Jesus Apolinaris

“Effective self-talk strategies can give us a greater sense of control over our doubts, worries, and fears.” ― Noel Brick

“I monitor my self-talk, making sure that it is uplifting and supportive of myself and others.” Louise Hay

“Words matter. And the words that matter most are the ones you say to yourself.” David Taylor-Klaus

“If human emotions largely result from thinking, then one may appreciably control one’s feelings by controlling one’s thoughts – or by changing the internalized sentences, or self-talk, with which one largely created the feeling in the first place.” Albert Ellis

“Be mindful of your self-talk. It’s a conversation with the universe.” David James

“The thoughts in your mind will always be more important than the things in your life. Choose happiness.” John C. Maxwell

“The only thing that can come in your way is YOU! If you think you can, you will do it. If you think you can’t, you are right too!” Sanchita Pandey

“If you hear a voice within you say, ‘You cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” – Vincent Van Gogh, artist

“If you put negative thoughts into your mind, you’re going to get negative results. It’s just as true that if you put positive thoughts in your mind, you will be a recipient of positive results.”–Lou Holtz